I want to hike!

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#1

I am so upset that I don’t know what to do. I had given up my hopes of hiking so my husband could visit his brother this spring break. Now we just found out that our motor home is going to be in the shop, so we aren’t going. (He doesn’t fly, and hates motels or hotels…) I thought well maybe I could hike the AT for a week, so I checked for flights to Atlanta and they are really cheap if you book 7 days in advance, that would be by tomorrow… Anyway, to make a long story short, when I told my husband what I wanted to do he really blew up! He just doesn’t get this hiking thing at all. I have been walking to and from work (3 miles each way) just because I like to walk. Well, he keeps coming by to pick me up… I know that he is upset about the motor home, and not taking a vacation for spring break, but he’s the one who decided not to go… I just had to blow off steam…

noname

#2

We just had this conversation an hour ago with Peep down at the park over pizza and how her husband “doesn’t get” the whole hiking scene and wants no part of it. You do what you have to do and either they’ll come around…or not. Many many hikers are in the same dilemma with relatives. Kind of like when going to college meant “your’re going to have sex and experiment with drugs aren’t you”. Sounds so 70’s to hear the same thing over again. “You’re going to walk all day and not shower for how long?” I feel your pain. Ignorance has no use and if these people refuse or don’t want to understand what we love then it’s thier loss. Show him some pics from our photo archive so he can see what its all about. Read a few journals to him. Good luck.

Bushwhack

#3

Sharing your pain, I’m madly in love with a couch potato, and gave birth to another. Now I’m outnumbered. How can I love such in-doorsy types? Fate’s got a sick sense of humor.

justhikes

#4

you raised a couch potato now live with it. there is no such thing as in-doorsy and out-doorsy types we are all fat americans no matter how many times you have or have not put you left foot in front of your right and repeated the process

blahblahblahhh

#5

It takes cooperation if a child is to be led into activity. A lot of children want to do things. But they are influenced by their parents. If a boy sees his father sit around then he will emulate him. A family walk routine is good to promote. Each morning (actually mornings are too busy and no one wants to get up 30 minutes earlier than they have to) or evening is a good time to walk to the local park and enjoy time together. But life patterns need some direction if they are going to change. And change is difficult for most. Sometimes New Years “resolutions” can kick-start habit changes but they need to be nourished. If the family will not change then the person who wants to explore their own health issues can do it without the rest of them or they can let the family drag them into a passive lifestyle and then just go out and buy a bigger TV or another TV for the bedroom, etc., and everyone can be a couch potato. The lure of the TV can be strong. It takes a lot of effort to break the inertia. Lead by example.

Skylander

#6

Lock that TV on OLN!! If you can’t bring the fam to the woods, bring the woods to the fam.

Bushwhack

#7

NONAME,
It sounds like the conflict you have with your husband over this issue is serious. Yes, you have this outlet to vent your frustration and get sympathy, but this is not the best way to resolve this conflict. Getting the trail community involved in solving a family conflict on a open forum is not good for you and your hushands relationship. Why? Because none of the feedback you been given yet shows any geniune love and concern for your family. If your husband has an anger probem, “blew up”, is your description, then that is something he needs help with. But overall, it would be nice if you both would get some maritial counseling. There is a real danger that this forum will probaly only give you advice that will contiune to drive a wedge between you and your hushand and destroy your marriage.

Woodsy Walker

#8

noname - yeah, I’m in the same situation, as are others. This has been brought up before on this forum so you know you have support here. You didn’t ask for advice and that’s good, because each situation is different. But I do want to say one thing. If you have a Dream - to hike the AT or to do anything, don’t let anyone take that dream away from you! It may not happen this year or next, but it can happen. So You Go Girl!

peep

#9

Thanks everyone for the opportunity to vent. Woodsy Walker, I especially appreciate your advice. I would never hike without my husband’s approval as I love him to much to dishonor him. Anyway, yesterday at lunch he mentioned the hike. He said that I should go since I would just be miserable at home all week. Anyway, I was so excited that I got on line and got tickets. The cheap seats were all gone, so I had to go on priceline. I am leaving late Saturday and will be hiking on Sunday. It’s only a week, but I’m going to be on Springer one week from today!

oldkathy (noname)

#10

Good going kathy youll love it just watch out for them shelter mice somma them are just waiting for an impressionable city gurl like you to show up you know what they do:eek:

Jumble Jowls

#11

Good to hear, Old Kathy.

I am going to be packing up and leaving in about a month to get back out again on my 2nd attempt! I decided just to do it!

Hope your hike goes well!

-BearBait

bearbait

#12

I’m glad things are back on track, oldkathy, and you get to make that trip to Springer and do the hike thing! Ya just never know how things are gonna to turn out. Happy hiking!

peep

#13

Hopefully he won’t “change his mind” once you get out there. :mad

burned