Look, they are trying to show a little respect and dignity for the family and friends of the girl. It may suck that you can’t discuss it in the way you want, but it is their forum and their right to do with it whatever they wish. It’s not CNN, or a major news outlet, and I think it’s a little ridiculous to be calling it censorship, as it has been called over there. It is their web page and, like it or not, they can do whatever they wish to it. I would rather it be more open, but can understand why they are trying to be a sensitive outlet to those who simply want to find out more facts, and not have to run through piles of speculation and gossip. I’m sure the family is getting enough of that as it is on the news networks, and when those moderators know that friends and family of the missing girl are, in fact, looking at those boards, then I completely respect their decision to keep it clean.
Trust me, it will be okay for you guys that aren’t able to post your opinion, and showing sympathy is something the family and friends of this girl will appreciate. When I had a loved one die a few years ago, due to horrible circumstances, a friend of mine had a talk with other friends and acquaintances in private about how nothing should be discussed about the incident unless I felt the need to bring it up. I was not the type of person, at the time, that could handle a bunch of people asking if I was okay all the time, and she knew this. She knew that, even though some people would mean well by trying to relate or trying to offer their own reasonings, it would be taken badly by me. Did I feel it was necessary? No, but I look back on it now and realize that she made the transition 150% easier on me when I got around to going out in public again.
It wasn’t her right to do this, but I certainly appreciated it.
So try to think about these situations a little more delicately, and put yourself on the victim’s side - then let me know how much speculation and gossip you’d like to hear about.
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